“My penis was cut against my will” Yes, we know, you had a piece of your penis cut off when you were a child against your will and it bothers you. It would bother me too, so become an advocate of that cause, protest it, fight it, do what you need to do, it is fine with me. I agree with you.
“Men are three times more likely to be victims of violent crimes than women.” That sucks, I disagree with all violence, everywhere. If it bothers you, look into the cause of this violence, the social and economic issues which may exist that causes others to mug, steal, rob, etc… become an advocate for social change, education reform, rehabilitation programs.
“All women think all men are rapists” No, we don’t. But we do have to consider that possibility when a stranger approaches us. Chances are we, or someone we know were victims of some sort of sexual assault or attempted assault. We are always on guard. If this bothers you than become an advocate of changing rape culture, of educating men on what is appropriate behavior. Help men and boys learn how they should respect the women in their lives.
“Men get raped too” We know, we acknowledge that fact. If it is something you are bothered by, again, become an advocate against violence and fight for social reform as well as better mental health resources for those who may have the proclivity to commit these sort of acts.
“Men have pressure to look good as well.” If you choose to work out, to have muscles, to tan, to die your hair, to get tattoos, to alter any part of your body, good for you. Do whatever you would like to make yourself feel good. But keep in mind, people find men like Louis CK, Ricky Gervais, George Clooney, Al Pacino, attractive. Men who are out of their twenties, who may be overweight, whose personalities make them desirable. I don’t think I have ever heard the media or the general population refer to Lisa Lampanelli, Roseanne Barr, Hilary Clinton or Oprah as sexy, hot or marriage material based solely on their intelligence, humor and personalities.
my mom taught me the therapeutic power of cleaning. open all the windows. throw out the old. wipe down the entire house. burn some incense. roast some coffee. then rest. that way the tears from last night don’t feel as heavy.